Grass Roots Reading and Signing

Thank you to Sandy Smith and Jack Wolcott, owners of Grass Roots Books in Corvallis, Oregon, for their warm hospitality at our first reading and signing.  They were great and so were the 50 attendees who came.  We appreciate everyone’s wonderful support. 40 books were sold and we hope that means 40 grieiving parents and/or family members are going to feel comforted and know that they are not alone.  Grass Roots photo

Have you wondered what to say to your friend or family member who just lost their child? Most people don’t know what to do. So here it is: 

“I’m so sorry.”

Immediately following the death of a child, this is all you need to say. There is no perfect phrase to ease the pain, but heartfelt sympathy and a hug is sometimes all that’s needed to show your condolences. Then, help! There are myriads of details to be taken care of after a child dies, and often the parents are in shock—dazed and in a heavy fog. They may not even know what their needs are. Create a list of specific things that might need to be done and ask them which of these things they would like you (or others) to do.

  • Help make phone calls to family and friends to inform them of the death. This can be very difficult for a grieving parent to do over and over again.
  • Pick up family or friends from airports, train stations, etc. who may be coming from out of town.
  • Create a program for the memorial service that can be given out to those who attend.
  • Obtain a guest book or make one. Encourage those who come to the service to sign in. Later, the parents will appreciate the reminder of who attended.
  • Provide flowers for the casket or tables at the service.
  • Take photos of the memorial service and/or graveside service.
  • Make a recording of the service.
  • Create a video of the child’s life.
  • Compile a collage of the child’s photos.
  • Help select clothing if the child is to be buried.
  • Help clean the house.
  • Ask if you can wash, iron, dry clean, or repair any clothing that family members are planning to wear to the service.
  • Wash the car.
  • Mow the lawn.
  • Stay at the family’s home while they’re at the service. There have been rare cases when homes have been burglarized during a memorial service by someone who checked the time of the service in an obituary notice.
  • Provide food for family and guests.
  • Provide a gift certificate to a restaurant to cover the cost of a meal for the family so they don’t have to worry about meal preparation or clean-up for one evening.

More ideas to come.

Author Reading and Signing Coming Up on January 26, 2016

We are excited to announce that Grass Roots Music and Book Store in Corvallis, Oregon will be hosting an “Author Reading and Signing” for the new release of “Finding Life After Losing One: A Parent’s Guide for When a Child Dies.”

Here are the details:

When: Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Where: Grass Roots Books and Music

Address: 227 SW 2nd Street, Corvallis, OR 97333

Time: 7:00-8:15 pm

Nikki and Alice will be reading excerpts from the book, answering questions and signing copies which will be available for sale.

We hope to see you there!