Take care of yourself

As passengers on an airplane, we are told to put the oxygen mask first on our own face and then to focus on getting the oxygen mask on our child’s face. This principle can apply to the survival tactics associated with grief. It’s difficult to find strength to support anyone, even our own children, if we have no strength to support ourselves. So, first, we need to suck in as much oxygen as we can and then go to our children and provide them with oxygen, as well. This doesn’t mean that we should expect our hearts and minds to be healed before we reach out to surviving children. In fact, when a death occurs in a family, the entire family needs oxygen as soon as possible.

You are normal

Grief is not a mental illness, but rather a process in which there’s lots of room to heal at your own pace. There is no overnight “fix,” but with time you’ll grow to deal with your grief and pain in rational, healthy ways. Some of these methods to help in the healing process may be therapy, support groups, healthy outlets and/or medication. Thereapy, support groups, healthy outlets, sometimes medication.

Amazon Review

Thank you, Kara Becerra, for your personal and poignant review on Amazon Books:

“I started to read this book out of interest to the topic (though I have not myself lost a child), and I was amazed at how helpful this book has been for me in my own grieving process after losing my dad a couple of months ago. Though the book speaks specifically to dealing with the loss of a child, I feel like a lot of the book can be generalize to the grief in general. I also so grateful that I was able to learn about ways that I can support a friend or family member when they are experiencing the loss of a child or other family member. I have already bought several copies to share with family members and friends who have experienced the loss of a child. This book is informative yet to the point, which will make it a realistic read to someone who has experienced loss who may not have the time energy for too much information.”